If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today? Think long and hard. And when your answer is no for too many days in a row, you know it’s time for a change.

And this is an interesting conversation, because we are all aware deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to every one of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and there you go on the floor before your mind shifts back to reality and how the world really is.

So live your life today on your own terms and not on the dictates of another person because in the last analysis, it’s all about you and not him or her. Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Death is not the end of life anyway. It’s a known fact that life continues after this realm of existence. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take positive action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive- the ideas you never used, the talents you never practiced, the songs you never song and the book you never wrote due to fear of failure. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step in the direction of your dreams anyway.

You’ve got to take that step. Because sadly, there are far too many people who live their entire lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize absolutely everything. Don’t be one of them! You have to live your own life your own way. That’s all there is to it. Each of us has a unique fire in our heart for something that makes us feel alive. It’s your duty to find it and keep it lit. You’ve got to stop caring so much about what everyone else wants for you, and start actually living for yourself.

Find your love, your talents, your passions, and embrace them. Don’t hide behind other people’s decisions. Don’t let others tell you what you want. Design and experience your life! The life you create from doing something that moves you is far better than the life you get from sitting around wishing you were doing it. So do something today, and every day, that moves you, even if you can only spare ten minutes here and there.